As you look back at your behavior in relationships, when do you think you finally matured? When did you first experience mature love?
For me, mature love is true love. It means loving unconditionally and being accepting of your partner always. When I think back to the relationships that I had in my early twenties, I was very immature and self-focused. Things needed to be my way, perhaps I was a bit controlling, bratty and a bit mean. But, I was growing and struggling to find my way in the world.
As I got older, I realized what types of behaviors weren’t acceptable to me. I removed those people from my life. Also, I changed my own behaviors to reflect what I wanted out of life. Out with the negative, in with the positive. I’m so happy that I did that, because The Texan came into my life shortly after that.
Of course there are days when The Texan and I don’t see eye to eye on every issue, but those days are far and few between. We work together and support each other in every way that we can. We’re both adults and we’re both respectful.
Having a mature relationship – and mature love – comes from respect of oneself and others. You need to decide what is important to you, what you will tolerate and what you won’t. Once you figure that out, you open your world to so many opportunities, experiences, and people.
How old were you when you discovered the importance of mature love?
This post was written as part of BlogHer’s NaBloPoMo February 2013 challenge. Today’s prompt was “Erich Fromm said, “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’.” How do you define mature love?” Sign ups to participate in this month’s Blog Roll have closed. You can still check out the participating bloggers and the daily prompts. Daily writing prompts can often become a great source of inspiration and encourage you to write about things you haven’t previously explored.