This post was inspired by the novel The Divorce Papers by Susan Rieger. Young lawyer Sophie unwillingly takes her first divorce case with an entertaining and volatile client in this novel told mostly through letters and legal missives. Join From Left to Write on March 18 we discuss The Divorce Papers. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.
As I get older, I tend to spend more time reflecting on the evolution of several relationships that have impacted my life in some way. Not all relationships are good for your well-being. And, not all are entirely bad either.
I’m a firm believer that people come into your life because they are there to teach you something. It could be a skill, or a craft, or one of life’s many lessons.
The funny thing is, we never know when people are going to walk out of our lives. We cannot predict for how someone is going to engage with us.
It’s important to remember that when we meet them, we are providing them with a learning experience, too.
Though it is tough to figure out what the lesson is at the time, reflecting on the relationship can open your eyes to a myriad of options.
For years, my best friend was a manipulator. And I had no clue. She was my best friend for nearly 20 years and named her first child after me. Yet still, she was a master manipulator. Calling on me for every crisis, knowing that I would come running.
That relationship ended nearly four years ago. I do think about her when I drive by certain places, when I glance in my jewelry box, and when certain dates on the calendar roll around. But mostly, I am thankful that we’ve parted ways. Because of her, I don’t let anyone into my life that doesn’t add value. I may set my expectations too high, but it works for me.
Because of her, I am happier. I hope that because of me, she is happier, too.
Have you parted ways with a long-time friend? Was it difficult for you?