I’m sure you’ve heard the news that Gwyneth and Chris are embarking on a new journey – conscious uncoupling. While I don’t understand why they won’t use the term D-I-V-O-R-C-E, it’s not my marriage dissolving. It’s not for me to judge; although I did a little bit there. Oops. But, I find it ridiculous to give a fancy term to something that is plain as a day a divorce.
Again, it’s not my marriage. I am not consciously uncoupling. The Texan and I are very consciously coupled, in case you were wondering.
We all know that Gwyneth must be enduring a pain and sadness that she didn’t expect, probably didn’t think she would ever experience. I think a bit of mourning must come into play when you divorce. The loss of a non-marital relationship can be difficult; a marriage crumbling in front of the world must be even worse. So, why are we showing support of the drama that the media is stirring up because of recent comments she made during an interview with E!?
She added, “I think it’s different when you have an office job, because it’s routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and then you come home in the evening. When you’re shooting a movie, they’re like, ‘We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,’ and then you work 14 hours a day and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.”
She is a mother. Like me, probably like you. She has a job. Like me, probably like you. She has guilt about not being there for her children. Like me, probably like you.
Motherhood is hard. Having a job is hard. Doing both is hard too.
We all make decisions based on what is familiar, common, and comfortable to US. I am not an actress. I am a writer. Although I may not be physically away from The Boy, there are days when I am mentally a million miles away. Those days are hard. He misses me; and I miss him.
Like Gwyneth, I made the choice to do what I do. Unlike Gwyneth, my decisions aren’t for the world to see because I haven’t been interviewed by E!. I am happy that I am not criticized by the world for basically saying that being a working mother is hard. Why does it matter what her profession is? If she were a motivational speaker, a corporate trainer, or a member of a traveling dance troupe, would everyone be so quick to beat her up for saying that balancing her choice of career and motherhood was hard?
It doesn’t matter who your employer is or what your profession is, being a mother is hard.
We need to come together as women and mothers in a show of support, not publicly berate someone because of their choices.
What are your thoughts on Gwyneth’s comments? Do you think the controversy and attention is warranted?