When I think about other people’s children, immediately I think of the children that are causing a ruckus in a restaurant, or acting inappropriately in a restaurant. Those kids, I don’t like. There I said it. I do not like other people’s children.
As a mother, I don’t feel that I have to like them either. I prefer children who behave in the same manner that mine does. I prefer children who are being parented in the same fashion that I parent The Boy. In our family, we have expectations of good behavior, particularly when we’re out in public. The Boy knows this. In fact, there was one occasion where he was escorted out of a restaurant by The Texan for acting inappropriately in a restaurant. He knows that we’re not joking, and is well behaved when we’re out.
Parents who are not actively present in the parenting process disgust me. Letting your child act like a wild animal is doing a disservice to the child and the public as a whole. It seems that there is less and less accountability when it comes to parenting. Parents worry their tween or teen will call the authorities if they try to discipline them. I have news for you – those tweens and teens can’t be parented now. You should have started at birth.
Parenting begins when your child takes their first breath. You are responsible for molding another human being into a thoughtful, loving, well-mannered, productive member of our society. You cannot expect to allow a four year old to run free in the grocery store, but obey a curfew when they’re fourteen. It doesn’t work that way.
To be a parent, you need to work hard and participate in your child’s daily activities. You need to train them before sending them off into the world. If you want other people to like your children, then do you job and be a parent. Teach your children please and thank you. Teach them that walking feet are for inside and running feet are for outside. Teach them to share, to think of others first, and to smile at the small things.
I know that parenting is tough. There are some days that I throw my hands in the air. And then I remind myself, the days are long but the years are short.
Maybe it isn’t the children that I don’t like…maybe it is the parents?
What is your take on other people’s children?
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